Intrusive Thoughts

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Karmic Relationships, Twin Flames & Soul Ties Series

One of the most distressing features of karmic relationships, soul ties, and twin flame connections is the experience of intrusive thoughts.

                                                             Why can’t I stop thinking about this person?

                                                                  Why is the mental pressure constant?

                                   Why does my attention keep looping back to them, no matter what I do?

For many people on an alchemical or individuation journey, this stage is unavoidable. And while it can feel torturous, it is also one of the most powerful turning points in the entire process. Learning how to disengage from obsessive thought loops, how to reclaim your attention and pull your energy back to yourself, accelerates individuation faster than almost anything else. It forces the reclamation of power, presence, and self-trust. And with that comes new tools, wisdom, and internal resources that could not have developed any other way.

                                               Obsession, Intrusion, and the Early Stages of the Journey

Most of us have experienced the relentless mental fixation that comes with obsession or limerence. This is especially common in the early stages of karmic or alchemical relationships, before we have the clarity to distinguish what is truly life-affirming from what is simply activating old wounds. At this stage, differentiation has not yet occurred. We are still sorting through projection, chemistry, trauma bonds, and unconscious attachment needs. Obsessive or intrusive thoughts can appear whether the connection ultimately proves karmic or whether it holds the potential to transform and ground  into something more mature and secure. However, one thing is always true: If a relationship is abusive, manipulative, or coercive, it is karmic. That is not a divine union. That is a lesson, not a destination. Obsessive thoughts can accompany both learning relationships and transformative ones but the way we work through them determines whether we evolve or remain stuck.

                                                        Why Intrusive Thoughts Are So Draining

When intrusive thoughts dominate, they consume attention, energy, and time. This has real consequences. Focus is diverted from work, creativity, finances, health, and existing relationships. Obsession becomes an energy leak, a depletion of resources that could otherwise support growth and stability. Even when we know this intellectually, the thoughts do not simply stop. This is because obsession is not a cognitive problem. It is embodied. It lives in the nervous system, emotional memory, and unconscious survival patterns. This is why the journey is so frustrating: You can understand the process intellectually and still have to walk through it physically, emotionally, and energetically. Knowledge alone does not produce integration. We must feel it to heal it.

                                                        Projection Is a Doorway We Must Walk Through

To move beyond intrusive thinking, we must pass through the lesson of projection. This cannot be bypassed. It cannot be skipped by insight alone. Projection must be lived, felt, and metabolized at the level of the body and nervous system. Until that happens, the mind will continue to search externally for relief, safety, or completion.

Think of it like learning to ride a horse. You can read every book, watch every video, and understand every rule but until you mount the horse, fall, adjust, and develop muscle memory, you don’t know how to ride. Emotional mastery works the same way. Integration requires experience.

                                                        Reclaiming Attention: The First Practical Step

A crucial early practice is identifying moments, however brief, when your attention naturally returns to you.  What activities absorb you enough that you forget the other person, even for seconds or minutes? It does not matter how small or how “silly” these activities seem. What matters is that, in those moments, your energy is no longer reaching outward. You are present. Those moments are clues. They reveal what grounds you, feeds you, and reconnects you to yourself. Doing more of these things begins to seal the energy leak caused by obsessive focus. Obsession pulls attention into the future toward imagined outcomes, security, or resolution. Grounding practices return attention to the present, where real nourishment happens.

                                                                The Illusion of the External Cure

In obsession, it often feels as though securing the other person or the outcome they represent will end the suffering. This is an illusion. At this stage of fragmentation, obtaining the external object of fixation would only produce problems layered upon problems. The connection would reflect the internal fracture, not heal it. True relief comes not from possession, reassurance, or resolution, but from withdrawing misplaced power and reclaiming it internally. This is how peace becomes possible.

                                                                   From Obsession to Neutrality

As healing progresses, attention slowly returns home. The charge around the other person diminishes. The nervous system settles. This does not mean we lose appreciation, affection, or even love. It means the connection is no longer painful. Fascination gives way to neutrality. Curiosity replaces craving. Presence replaces pursuit. We are no longer dependent on outcomes, agreements, or reciprocation to feel whole. This is the peak of the mountain.

                                                        Why This Stage Feels Both Good and Terrible

Obsessive focus can feel intoxicating. It activates adrenaline, anticipation, hope, and fantasy. These chemical rewards temporarily mask deeper wounds. And yet, the same fixation becomes a source of immense suffering. Our greatest comfort becomes our greatest pain. The task is not to suppress the obsession, but to outgrow the belief that it holds the cure. Clarity comes as we heal. We cannot see others clearly while we are still fragmented. Trauma, unmet needs, romantic ideals, and unconscious expectations distort perception. Only after these layers are stripped away do we gain true discernment. This is why, in hindsight, so many people feel grateful they did not get what they once believed they wanted. With clarity restored, it becomes obvious that the connection was incomplete, misaligned, or unsafe.

                                            This does not mean we were foolish. It means we were learning.

Reclaiming Power, One Layer at a Time. Intrusive thoughts diminish as energy, focus, and attention are reclaimed incrementally. Each layer of illusion removed brings us closer to sovereignty. This process cannot be rushed.



                                                        There is no bypass. The only way out is through it.

And yet, what waits on the other side is not loss, but freedom, clarity, and the capacity for real, non-painful connection. The pressure and distraction intrusive thoughts bring will resolve through lived understanding, patience, and sustained self-return.

                                                               If you are in this stage now, know this:

                                                                                 You are not weak.

          You are in a process of reclaiming your Nervous System and healing dependency paradigms.

                                                                     This process will move through.

                    You will come out of this process as a higher, more aligned version of yourself.                                                                                 You are in the process of becoming whole.

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