Natsty (But it feels perfect!) Neptune

With the conjunction of Venus and Neptune we have a blending of the same types of fantasies and ultimately illusions in the individuals. We have such similar fantasies that we fall Into a Neptunian trance almost immediately and can feel an other worldly perfection because the person we are regarding seems to exhibit all that we have ever dreamed of seeing in another. Now, this may sound ideal, right? That’s the Neptunian trick right there. You are relating to FANTASIES that you have about each other, you are not relating to who each other actually is. 

When we cast our fantasies onto another, we are not loving that person. We are using them as a stand in for what we personally want to see materialized. We are not appreciating the other for who THEY ARE. We are appreciating our own sense of perfection and ideal love and Romance. We are not connected to the truth of each other. 

When we have significant connections between Venus or Neptune in synastry or composite charts, it is almost impossible to accept the truth. You can try to convince someone of what is actually occurring and they will fight you hard because they are completely convinced they alone have the truth. 

The truth comes out eventually with all Neptune aspects bit it is particularly disturbing when its connected to the Sun, moon or Venus in compatibility. There is a tremendous let down when we finally pay attention to what is actually occurring in the relationship and who we are actually with. If you are otherwise very practical or don’t have a heavily Neptunian way on your own, then this can help a great deal because we have at least one of the partners that is already prone to wanting to see the actuality of things. If we have two,people that are already prone to Neptunian patterns then we have a really difficult aspect to contend with here. The expectations that you have of the relationship, what you assume it’s going to be able to bring you and provide for you will be what you have to sacrifice in order to be truly happy with each means you must see each other as you are. 

You may actually be what each other is looking for if you regard each other without the agenda you originally had for the relationship and for the other person. No one is here to live up to our expectations of them. If you can allow yourselves to appear as you are, to tell the truth about your feelings, to react honestly in the moment, to fart if the need arises. You must also allow yourselves to see the other person as they are. We all cast illusions upon each other. But this aspect brings that out to an extreme. You must pay attention to what the other person is actually saying and doing mad it’s good to get an outside opinion. You won’t like that opinion but it’s wise to listen to it, anyway. It will not match what you think is going on the relationship, I guarantee that. 

You have similar fantasies and if you can punch through those you may find that you have a love that is so much more meaningful than you ever originally thought it could be. That’s the weird thing about this aspect. You actually blend well when it comes to what you would like to enjoy in this life, how you want to receive and give pleasure. You have to be willing to discover this beneath the layer of illusion that looks like perfection, however. You won’t find something perfect when your fantasies and assumptions about each other shatter, but if you are willing to honestly regard each other as you are, you may find that you have a bond that is so much richer because it is based on something solid. ​

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