Natal Moon Inconjunct Mars--Curb Your Reactions!

People with this aspect take offense to things very easily. This is the touchiest of all the aspects in astrology. Mars represents the ego and it’s good if you envision Aries the God during this description. That can give you a visual that may help connect the dots about this aspect. Aries the God of war and was very much about taking immediate action on his impulses and feelings. Mars is concerned with the moment to moment contact the ego has with the environment and also how we are perceived by others. That’s very much mixing with the emotions and moods and habitual emotional patterns of the Moon when we have this inconjunction. Extreme reactivity is the result of this mix. ​

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Mars is about winning, about being first.

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The impulsiveness of the ways that people with this aspect react to their feelings is the basis of many, many altercations, misunderstandings, offenses and often fights. There is no objectivity when it comes to how they interpret their feelings. The readiness of Mars does not allow for the natural tendency to weigh reactions or think responses through before they are poured out onto others. Mars also is not an energy that takes being wrong well. Mars is about winning, about being first. When this is coupled with the Moon, the feelings not only come in a rush, they come ready to be right. So, the predisposition of someone with this aspect to is react without thinking and then fight for that often incorrect response to be right. 
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You need to watch a show called “Curb your enthusiasm.”. The writer and lead actor in that show has this aspect. The whole show is basically about the mayhem he goes around stirring up through his impulsive emotional reactions and how a lot of people have a problem with him as a result. It’s a hilarious show. 

People with this aspect need to learn to keep a lid on it. Don’t react at all sometimes. Sit on your words. The strength of Mars needs to be brought under conscious control. You must deliberately address how Mars runs away with your Moon. Slowing down the element of reactivity is the key to a healthy relationship and not being interpreted as a psycho by your children. We are hyper emotional with this inconjunction. It doesn’t generally lead to an easy life , especially an easy domestic life until we learn to stop needing to be immediately right in any given situation. ​

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We are hyper emotional with this inconjunction.

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People with this aspect were often criticized or made to feel small or inept as children. Consequently, they are not about to be pushed around again or willing to allow anyone to get away with anything. There is a ton of compensation that is going on. They feel insecure because of the fallout from their own behavior but they also can’t tolerant not reacting suddenly and often without the correct information because that also makes them insecure. So, they are their own worst enemy when it comes to disrupting their emotional or domestic life. They are insecure until they react (often without all the facts) and then insecure because of how they reacted. 

This aspect also causes a potential for the people who have to be emotionally manipulated due to their lack of objectivity. If you can get them riled up enough then they will follow you off a cliff. Posses in the movies from the Wild West are made up of people with this aspect. You fire them up, give em a gun and watch them go do your dirty work. That’s a real danger with this inconjunction--that you can be roped into some activities that have an element of turning against someone or targeting someone. That act really plays into a deep weakness in someone with this aspect. The need to target and obliterate an enemy. 

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Slowing down the impulse to respond
equals creation of intimacy.

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Angry feelings are typical with this inconjunction as well. Dealing with an aggression that is just under the surface. That’s one of the reasons the reactivity is such a problem, it’s that this inner tension has to go somewhere. As children people with this aspect are virtually unmanageable. That’s what they need to reclaim but in a balanced way. By being OK with the need for Mars to express as well as the Moon is the key. The oscillation between passive and aggressive can be solved by slowing down Mars and remembering the Moon. We must remind ourselves that stability comes only through not reacting in a knee jerk fashion. You must learn to suss out more information about what just happened before you go embarrassing yourself again. Don’t involve yourself with other people unless you have all the facts and are in a position to be an equal. Much of the time people with this Aspect can have an imbalance with their give and take. They take too much sometimes and give too much other times. This is the imbalance between Mars which is taking and the Moon that is giving. Finding oneself bled dry and exhausted is really common in relationships and also the partner being worn out by the interaction. This all begins with controlling Mars so that our needs can be taken care of. Mars constantly runs in and destroys the intimacy or trust that the Moon craves. We learn to not trust ourselves. Slowing down the impulse to respond equals creation of intimacy. ​

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