People with the moon in square, opposition or conjunction to Uranus are akin to emotional aliens. This article mainly focuses on the hard contacts between these two planets.
The moon represents our feelings and emotions, the mother principle, the mind and largely the feminine unconscious. It is the entity that rules or moods and sensitivities and is of the utmost importance in astrological interpretation. The moon is the planet that ultimately determines our style in relationships.
Uranus is all about change, instability, newness, insight, upheaval, the future, invention, advancement of new systems and liberation.
When Uranus, the planet of insight, disruption, innovation and change meets the planet of feelings, emotional balance and security, the result is emotional spontaneity and emotional changeability. The feelings have a detached, destabilized quality to them and often those with conjunction struggle to make intimate contact with their emotions at all.
The internal realationship between the Moon-the comfort zone--and the Uranian impulse to free oneself must come into a relationship to satisfy both human needs.
This detachment is traced to childhood where there was a Uranian experience of the mother figure, the nurturing parent. The Moon in a natal chart describes ones perception of the mother and often her personality itself. Many times, the mother was herself Uranian, progressive, liberal or very much individual (depending on aspects). This aspect can point to a different type of maternal figure or one that had very different ideas than her contemporaries. Often, the mother was overwhelmed with other children or otherwise preoccupied when the sensitive child reached out for reassurance and safety. When that need for mother attention was not met, the child retreated into perfecting a cerebral coping scheme. The shock of realizing the core of safety, equanimity and reassurance was not emotionally available set the child up to associate the threat of shock and upheaval with attachment and caring. The child's feelings were often caught up and overwhelmed in situations and many with this aspect very quickly emotionally grew up before they had solid coping skills in place to deal with the Uranian influence of destabilization, agitation and shattering breakthroughs. The internal relationship between the Moon- the comfort zone, ones emotional reference point that stems from the past and the Uranian impulse to free oneself from outmoded ways must come into relationship in such a way so as to satisfy both human needs.
Often during a childhood trauma (consider signs and aspects) the child endured it in a state of mental paralyzation and could not or did not physically move to get away. Sometimes this Shocking Uranian experience was a shock to the infant at a very vulnerable stage in their development and this sets the child up to feel life is unpredictable as lacking in essential security. Children with hard contacts between the Moon and Uranus see that attachment and openness lead to security that is ripped away and consequently, walls are built to protect the vulnerable heart. These children very often feel unique, odd, and like they do not not fit in. They are most often right.
They retreat even though they are still in the room.
The patterns we adopt as children, make us who we are as adults (until they don’t). A side effect of the early experience of shock in childhood sets these people up to repeat the same defensive behavior when faced with stressful confrontation as adults. They shut down. They become still. They retreat even though they are still there in the room. (Aspects between the moon or sun and Mars or Pluto can mitigate this somewhat and provide an amount of emotional courage)
Another maladaptive coping mechanism that can arise from this conjunction is the impulse toward confrontation. This avoidant style of dealing with overwhelm is just not well understood by others. The Moon/Uranus person tries to reform the system that denies them comfort and safety by resisting it, agitating it or rupturing it. This is an unconscious attempt to control the anxiety of not feeling cared for by “the system” and the preoccupation with changing it so as not to connect with the real problem ensues.
Moon/Uranus people just can't be needed too deeply,
for this presents the risk of being trapped.
The Moon/Uranus person is often labeled " cold" "uncommitted" or insincere. Most people are much like rams who butt heads in the heat of an argument because it feels good to get that charge out. Moon/Uranus people are different in that if they see they are about to be rammed by you, they go stiff and play dead. There suddenly is no one to charge. This is extremely confusing to the rest of the world made up of head-butters. Moon /Uranus people just drop out when the pot of conflict boils over. This is not satisfying to go up against in a conflict. When a partner simply shuts down, hugs themselves tight and responds in subdued one word answers, there is nothing left to fight with. Conflicts are rarely resolved well with these people in the heat of an argument. The way around this, the way you get a Moon/Uranus person to go up to battle with you is to let them have space after the initial confrontation, then touch them as you assure them of acceptance and safety. Let them know that if they show their truth you will not leave them. Trying to develop emotional intimacy with these people is not easy. The more the one who loves them tries, the more they attempt to attach and display their need for closeness, often the more the unintegrated Moon/Uranus person feels an aversion to them. These people just can't be needed too deeply, for this presents the risk of being trapped. Do not chase these people, it will not get you what you want. Let them come to you. A domestic or career trap is something the Moon/Uranus person feels they cannot abide. Such a thing triggers anxiety stemming from the inner relationship between safety and emotional stability and instability.
Those with Uranus-heavy personalities can be very penetrating in their search for ultimate, objective truth.
When faced with an emotional shock or a highly charged conflict, Moon/Uranus people go still. They must remain relatively motionless to recalibrate and regain their bearings. They process stressful feelings while motionless. Thinking and moving at the same time is too overwhelming in these moments.
Moon /Uranus people must give in to the emotional truth, for the truth involves vulnerability. The Uranian archetype is masterfully cerebral. Uranus in its most positive state represents truth, breakthroughs and wholistic perspective. Those with Uranus-heavy personalities can be very penetrating in their search for ultimate, objective truth.
Discovering ones own emotional truth is a huge part of this planetary combination that often comes in later years. Many times this awakening to ones own beliefs brings a crisis in relationship. The Moon/Uranus person suddenly discovers their authentic emotions buried deep under their fear of exposure and this then leads to the breakdown of their current paradigm, the relationship being a part of the old belief system. A radical new outlook is seized upon and the moon/Uranus person can feel compelled to throw their entire life over for a world view more authentic, odd or highly unconventional. Whoa be to the moon/Uranus person who experiences a mid life crisis!
This aspect can lead one to the most dramatic change of lifestyle and attitude when set off by the dreaded mid life crisis. Women who switch from stay at home mom to career woman, men who start a new family based on free love, people who realize there is more to relating than tradition restricts us to. These are examples of how far reaching the emotional insight can be for these progressive people. The conjunction and the opposition are the contacts that most often result in non traditional unions and open relationships much of the time.
There is a tension between the Moon and Uranus
that just makes these people itchy.
Moon conjunct to Uranus can be insistent on what kind of relationship they can tolerate and it is most often unusual in some form. Both planets want to lead and so there is an uneasy dance of you and me and you or me. Many times, these individuals will change their mind or attitude regarding their belief about relationships at one point in their lives so radically that the other partner faces a big choice regarding whether or not they can stay with the moon/Uranus person. The divide in belief is sometimes so great the relationship must end. This difference in approach can range from needing more time alone to having a separate living space to living in an open marriage. Sometimes, if a compromise can be reached, the union is redefined and has new life breathed into it as a result. A renegotiation takes place in these cases and the new boundaries and clarified understandings can then allow the Moon/ Uranus person to find the freedom along with the security they were always looking for.
The square between these two planets can motivate a person to continually find unsuitable partners, even partners that intentionally bring conflict into their lives. There is a tension between the Moon and Uranus that just makes these people itchy. Many times this is temporarily resolved by throwing themselves into a relationship that proves to be ill fitting. The emotions are in argument with the freedom loving parts of themselves. There is an urge to merge with a need to be free. There can be an unacknowledged resentment toward the domestic partner that comes out as pervasive passive aggression. The Moon square Uranus individual is not likely to be consciously aware of this. Many people who have the square end relationships very abruptly. Most people master this square in their 30's but they can have some serious crazy ex-lover stories to tell
These are the self taught geniuses among us...
The opposition leads one to be very fickle about who they will partner with. There is a tension that builds and snaps, builds and snaps. Sometimes this aspect can lead one to run very hot and cold in relationships. They are either showering you with nurturing and comfort or not really there and aloof.
The hard contacts also create an unusual learner. Traditional education is not generally the path to success for these types. These are the self taught geniuses among us and if they must endure compulsory education, they will typically not flourish until they can decide their own course of study. People who appear incapable or consistently do poorly in grade school but graduate with honors in college are often found to have a Moon/Uranus hard contact. These are unconventional learners who require the ability to decide for themselves what they will and won't learn. This is a very mentally and emotionally stubborn aspect and if you push these people, they will shut down and keep their plans and ideas to themselves all the more. Freedom to pick and choose what they will and won't learn is central to their desire to learn anything at all. The soft contacts between these two planets go toward a brilliant mind that goes with the flow much more easily and is open to direction (especially if there an aspect to Mercury).
Freedom is security for these radical thinkers.
A progressive or free attitude toward parenting is often the seen with women with any Moon/Uranus contact. Motherhood tends to come quickly and unexpectedly with the hard aspects. Moon in hard aspect to Uranus can also be seen in the charts of women who experience miscarriage or abortion. (The ENTIRE birth chart must be considered, however. Having a hard contact between these two planets is no guarantee of a hard or denied pregnancy.)
The weird, unusual, unorthodox or strange is of interest to people with these contacts. It is easy for Moon/Uranus to get along with all tiers of society and they generally hold no prejudice. They are at home among those that represent diversity. All contacts between these two planets make for a conciliate thinker, one who can make connections between seemingly very different subjects. Hard and soft contacts make for emotional insight into ones own inner processes. Moon /Uranus people are often very much aware of their own psychology and can even explain it to you, offering good reasons for their emotional aloofness. They intellectualize their feelings. Ardent expressions of affection are very hard for those with hard contacts. If you get a subdued "I love you", you are doing pretty well. Chasing, demanding more intimacy, or expressing disappointment that they are not living up to your expectations to someone with these contacts is not advised. Backing off and letting them be is the best way to get their attention. Remember, freedom is security for these radical thinkers.
With hard contacts between Moon /Uranus, the problem is unconscious rebellion against the mother, defying security.
With hard contacts between Moon and Uranus, the deepest problem is rebelling against the mother, defying security. Living in a state of open emotional rebellion of ones own human need for vulnerability that leads to intimacy. Intimacy with ones own feelings is a lifetime, yet unconscious pursuit
Regrets that come from tossing the old life aside in favor of a new, seemingly freer life are common for Moon/Uranus people with difficult contacts. The trick is to create an existence that allows for both attachment and independence. The right kind of mate is essential to the long term success of a relationship with a Moon/Uranus person. A partner who has a lot of Aquarian qualities or a Moon/Uranus contact of some kind themselves will go far toward understanding the conflict the Moon /Uranus person faces.
With hard contacts between Moon and Uranus, the deepest problem is unconscious rebellion against the mother, defying security. Living in a state of open emotional rebellion of ones own human need for vulnerability that leads to intimacy. Intimacy with ones own feelings is a lifetime, yet unconscious pursuit
Until the internal relationship between the archetypes of the Moon and Uranus are balanced, there may always be a struggle between past and future, security and freedom, closeness and distance, patience and impatience, dependence and independence for these unusual and progressive people.