Asteroid Kassandra #114

Asteroid Kassandra #114 represents dysfunctional marriage, the gift of prophesy and the boldness to exercise one's intuition and insight in public. Kassandra was a beautiful red haired young girl who caught the eye of Apollo, the Sun God and also the God of prophesy. Being the Sun God, he desired that Kassandra would worship him as other females did. She did not pay Apollo the attention he desired and so he spat in her mouth, giving her a loaded gift of prophesy in exchange for her favors. Kassandra refused Apollo still and in retaliation he cursed her (because he could not take the gift back) that no one would believe her warnings and intuitions. Kassandra warned repeatedly of disasters but was ignored, branded hysterical and died insane.

This asteroid is reminiscent of the marriage in which the man is king of the castle, the bread winner and a chauvinist. The wife is unhappy in her role as subjugate and makes noises about wanting something more. The husband marginalizes the wife's perceptions with his reasoning's why he must stay in control, why he must make the decisions, why he must keep power. The wife feels she is right but is not heard. The husband frequently lets her know how she cannot contribute well enough to have a say in the finances, or why she is wrong to feel neglected because he is always giving his attention elsewhere and usually working. He justifies his controlling nature by saying her behavior makes him feel jealous. To him, her requests for intimacy are just silly and impractical. He says that she sees things the way she does because she is a woman.

​The wife begins to feel crazy. Having been told she is irrational and overly emotional and expectant and incapable, the wife reaches a state of emotional hysteria similar to battered women's syndrome, and neurosis and low self esteem take over. This state is known in psychological parlance as the "Kassandra Complex."

Being brainwashed into believing you are wrong when you feel you are right is a CRAZY MAKER. Typically when the wife reaches her mid thirties she develops the inner strength to see thru the words of the husband and perceive the truth. She IS capable, She IS trustworthy. The women who stay in these dysfunctional marriages come to a point where they give up. This wife will choose to subjugate her own identity and desires to insure she will continue to be fed. 

Kassandra can show where we need to stand up for our beliefs and inner faith no matter what. She tells of the gift of prophesy and the ability to forewarn others thru giving credence to our intuition and insight. Where we are not given credibility is pointed out by the location of this asteroid as well. Kassandra shows where we deviate from the norm to pursue the truth even if it seems crazy at the time. By studying the aspects she makes in our chart, we can get a clue to how we are believed or not believed, how we are respected and how we handle being the odd one out even when you KNOW you are right.