Synastry: Venus Inconjunct Mars

Venus inconjunct Mars in synastry--The styles do not match. The expectations regarding sex and pleasure are just very different. How the Venus expects to be satisfied and how Mars wants to satisfy are not the same. This leads to sexual misunderstandings and often impotence. The energy is very exotic in the beginning and there is a pull to try something and someone new. Over time- and not much time has to go by to see the difficulties associated with this aspect to show up- the couple finds they don't satisfy each other.

Their expressions glance off of one another. There is a sense of not being understood or appreciated and this leads to feelings of guilt or shame. This kind of environment does not help the male's confidence and erodes the female's self esteem.

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The partners need to communicate to realize it is
​a problem with their TIMING above all.

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The partners need to communicate to realize it is a problem with their TIMING above all. Neither partner is wrong or perverted (unless they are)--they just desire differently. The couple must agree to both come WAY out of their comfort zones to please the other. They not only have to meet in the middle, they have to do it wearing something they would rather not and speaking with an accent and wear a glue-on mustache. In short, there are huge adjustments and compromises needed in order to connect these two planets in a way that is satisfying and not a turn off for both people.

Very often a choice has to be made between what is required to feel satisfied in the relationship and the relationship itself. Many couples go their separate ways over this inconjunction (and are convinced it is because the other was just gross!)

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